Yes, I got ghosted not once or twice and not by the same person either. It hurt and when I think about it sometimes, it still does. What is ghosting? Let’s ask Google…
Ghosting is the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication. It is the practice of ceasing all communication and contact with a partner, friend, or similar individual without any apparent warning or justification and subsequently ignoring any attempts to reach out or communicate made by said partner, friend or individual. Let me break this down a bit further…
If you’re in a friendship or relationship and suddenly, without warning at all, your partner disappears with no calls, messages, social media chats, no responses to your messages and you know he or she wasn’t involved in an accident, isn’t in jail, hasn’t left town or isn’t dead, but has simply ended the relationship without even bothering to let you know or explain why. Guy, you’ve been ghosted!
People choose to disappear from other people’s lives without at least a minimum conversation to help the other party ascertain why and without any room for discussion either. This is ridiculous and absurd. Sometimes, the victims don’t even know why they’ve been ghosted and constantly seeks to find closure of some sort- which may or may never be found. People ghost from others for different reasons and sometimes, it’s not even about the victim. It could be a breakup strategy, an avoidant personality trait, a non-committal character, a recurring lineage thing to abandon others or get rejected and sometimes, due to trust issues.
The annoying part is, they end up not showing any signs of empathy or remorse for their ghosting behavior and sometimes show up later after weeks, months or years, acting like nothing happened or expecting to start from where they left off as if life is a pause & play game. They forget that yeah, ghosting may have been an easy way out to avoid all the drama, questioning, feelings and all, but they’re gradually burning bridges for the future.
In case you don’t know, ghosting hurts terribly. It is painful, traumatizing, tragic, draining and has led to many suicidal root stories. Ghosting keeps the victim in a state of no closure, uncertainty and insecurity, leading to more trust issues, depression, mental health issues, emotional instability and deterrent effects on future relationships. Thinking of the many why’s, what’s, the emotional breakdown, the confusion, how to move on…simply hurts like the death of a loved one itself. You should never disappear from anyone you claim to love or care about with zero warning or notice.
Hey! You’re not the problem. Stop torturing yourself with the memories, pictures, texts, posts, even stalking, to avoid you getting obsessive. Your ex chose to ghost you, not you. Try to be around people who care about you, do things you love, focus on yourself, be happy, and know that the person who ghosted you isn’t worth it. He/she is immature, lacks courage and empathy and doesn’t care about you or deserve you- atleast not anymore. What if he/she comes back? Follow your heart, but remember, once bitten, twice shy. Tell me, have you ever been ghosted or you ghosted someone? How did you deal with it? What’s your take on ghosting?