On my way to work this morning, I witnessed an incident which brought back memories and inspired this post. Here’s the gist… I take a taxi to work everyday and due to the pandemic, taxi drivers were cautioned to take 3 passengers in the back seat and one in front. Now, there was a lady in the front seat, another on my left- in the back seat, me in the middle and a young man to my right. We barely even drove away when the driver stopped over to pick up a fourth person- which would make it four people behind and against the rules. The lady in the front seat asked subtly out of concern: “Oga, how many people are you carrying behind?” and he responded aggressively: “Wetin be your business? Ashawo!”. Now, the problem escalated.
The second lady beside me reprimanded him and he flared up calling all of us prostitutes and shouted at us to come down from his taxi because well, we all couldn’t stand him disobeying the Covid rules and also verbally abusing us so early in the morning. The guy in the taxi was so furious at the driver and the abusive man drove off empty without any passengers- his day is already cursed as it stands. This incident didn’t just further describe how much women have been objectified, -which is very dehumanizing and demoralizing, but it confirms the level of insanity in the society we find ourselves.
Personally, I think it’s really pathetic to see people- regardless of gender, judge others based on nothing. You don’t know their history, background, nothing and you just blurt out abusive words at people. I do know that deranged people are strategically put out there to destroy other people’s days and tarnish images for no reason, but it also reflects the level of stupidity we have to deal with. To think that a man who sees a fully covered woman and tags her a prostitute is normalcy is totally unbecoming. As sensitive as this may be to some, please note that there are more insensitive people out there who simply take these things for granted.
Few years ago, I had a doctor friend who wanted a relationship which I declined because he simply objectified me. He saw me as this priceless possession he needed to cage, toss when and how he wanted and I just wasn’t in for that and will never be. I am a grown woman who knows what she wants and doesn’t. You can’t tell me what to do, when and how to do it- especially if I have to be enslaved to you. No! You can not also want me all to yourself because I am in your life- No! Thing is, I have a voice and I know when and how to use it. You can’t treat me like an object and curse me like trash because well, some religion and archaic school of thought resounded how women are nothing, but pencils in the hands of men (Paraphrased). I am not an object and no, not even a sexual object. So, don’t objectify me!